#1. Reasons To Question Your Sexuality

So, let's start at the beginning. There are a lot of things that may make you question a thing or two about your own sexuality, so let’s take a look at some of those, first. If you've ever been in a situation where you've felt an attraction towards someone of the same sex, unexpectedly, then this should certainly pique your interest. While it is definitely something to consider, it won't necessarily mean that you are gay. Maybe there was a situation that happened between you and a friend recently that made you question if you are gay. Maybe you felt an attraction towards another man and it started to make you question things. Maybe it's a question that you've had on your mind for a long time, but haven't allowed yourself to dig deeper, for any number of reasons. Either way, these are some examples of reasons why you might want to question your sexuality, and do some exploring.

#2. Have You Been Trying To Avoid The Possibility?

Avoiding the question of whether or not you might be gay, particularly if it's something that's come up on more than one occasion, is never a good idea. As time goes on, you're only going to end up having more questions for yourself, and it is likely that you will become even more confused. You can't run from the question, and if this really has been on your mind for a long time, then there is a good chance that you are gay. In this particular situation, asking yourself these questions IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Seek out relationship advice to help you, and don't be afraid of the possibility, because even if it is difficult to adjust to in the beginning, it will be absolutely worth it in the long run. Everyone wants to be able to live their lives on their own terms, and be themselves. Take little steps, and allow yourself to think about whatever comes to mind when you drift to this topic, and don't be afraid of what comes up. A lot of people are worried about what others will think, and/or how it's going to affect their lives in terms of how others will see them. This is the last thing you should be thinking about at the beginning stages of sorting out your sexuality, because it only stands as a roadblock to being honest with yourself. For the time being, at least, don't think about anyone else. You need to figure yourself out, first.

#3. Are You Physically Attracted To Men?

Okay, so this is coming right out and asking an obvious question, but it's definitely a good place to start. Have you had feelings of attraction towards men before? Do you find yourself checking men out when you're in public? Have you ever met a man that you knew you were instantly drawn to? These are all important things to consider. You may have had these types of feelings towards both women and men, and that could very well mean that you are bisexual, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you are gay. If you are having strong feelings of attraction towards men though, you'll need to explore that in more depth, and observe your own behavior when you're out and interacting with other men. This isn't a suggestion that you overanalyze yourself, it's simply a suggestion that you be cognizant of what you're feeling when you're in social situations with men, and allow yourself to explore any feelings that you may have. It's also a good idea to be honest with yourself regarding any physical reactions you might have towards men as well. Don't brush them off.

#4. Do You Feel Physically Attracted To Women At All?

If the answer to this is no, and you are feeling physical attraction towards men, then there is a very good chance that you are gay. This is a pretty dead giveaway. If you feel sexual attraction towards both women and men, then there's a good chance that you are bisexual, and that is also worth exploring. Again, though, if you're not having any feelings of physical attraction towards women, and you know that you are physically attracted to men, then it's very likely that you are gay. You will need to start thinking about that more with yourself, talking it out with whomever it is that you're feeling the most comfortable sharing this with, and starting to consider how you will want to approach your dating life going forward. You may wish to try online dating to meet a couple of men, and see how the dates end up going. See how you feel about spending romantic time with other men, and if it's something that feels natural to you. If you're not at all interested in dating women, then this is something that you're definitely going to want to start exploring; see where it ends up leading you. Physical attraction is always the biggest indicator of whether or not we are gay, straight, bisexual, or whatever the case may be. So, if you're not having any sexual feelings towards the ladies, but you're definitely having them towards men, then it's time to consider the fact that you are very likely gay.

#5. Understanding Your Feelings

Whatever the outcome of this journey of discovery may be for you, it's important that you consider not putting yourself into one labelled box and choosing to take up permanent residence there. A lot can change throughout the course of your life, and you never know what the future may bring. You may never feel like you've completely got your sexuality figured out, and that's just fine. Maybe you will be attracted to men and women at different times throughout your life, and that is absolutely okay. This is something that a lot of people experience, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. We all grow and evolve as humans as we live out our lives, and sexuality is something that has just as much of a chance to change as anything else. As you approach this topic in your own life, and you continue moving forward on the path that feels right to you, you'll find that things will make sense on their own if you're open to feeling whatever you do at the time.

Sexuality is never a straight line (excuse the expression), and it really doesn't have to be. Try not to limit who you are based on the limits that are set up by society. One solution doesn't fit every person, and none of us are required to fit into a specific box, no matter how much other people might feel the need to see things that way. Relationship advice can be very helpful when it comes to understanding this. The most important thing is that YOU understand your own feelings, and what they mean to you.

Attraction is something that you can feel towards another person, for any number of reasons. It could simply be that you and another person happen to have great chemistry. It could be that you share the same morals and values with someone, and as a result, feel an attraction towards them. Attraction is often one of those things that you just can't put a finger on, and there are many different levels of it. If you're feeling attracted to someone in a sense that you really enjoy talking with them and being around them, it could just mean that your energies jive with one another and you've found a great friend in life that you will end up spending a lot of time with. If you're feeling definite, obvious signs of sexual attraction towards a man though, and we all know what it feels like to be sexually attracted to someone, then whether you're gay, bisexual, or whatever, you most certainly are attracted to men - and that is something that is absolutely worth exploring. You never know who the love of your life could turn out to be, and you don't want to miss out on a great thing by not pursuing it, or at least exploring it a bit further to see where it could end up going.

Feelings are a very complicated thing to try and decipher sometimes, but they're also very important to recognize, and you need to allow yourself to validate any feelings that you may be having so that you can move forward. Seek out relationship advice, be open to the various possibilities, and feel free to explore them. No experience is a bad experience if you've learned from it, so don't spend time worrying. Do what you need to do to answer this question for yourself and continue moving forward. If you do discover that you are gay, that's great! You can start to decide how you will identify going forward (if you care to), and start living a life that feels good to you, on your own terms.

Moving Forward, Once You Know

Moving forward in this journey once you know know how you really feel is very important, and is something that you are going to need to do. If you do end up discovering that you are,in fact, gay, then the first thing you need to do is to feel good about that within yourself. Afterward, you'll be taking a different approach to the dating game from a standpoint with which you feel more comfortable and self-assured, which is an absolutely great thing!

There is a very fun time in your life coming up, and you're about to have a lot of fun getting to know yourself better while you head out and enjoy some incredibly fun, new dating experiences. Let yourself enjoy this time. It's sure to be a very relaxed and happy one in your life, now that you know what you're looking for. This is a great time to embrace new things, and take the time to really enjoy your new experiences.

Talking To Your Loved Ones

This can be a very difficult thing for a lot of people to do, but remember, your friends and family love you. It may take some getting used to for people, and that's pretty standard. They will get used to it though, and, someday, you'll likely wonder why you were ever concerned. Some people are fortunate enough to have families who have always let them know that sexual orientation is not a big deal to them, and if you are one of these people, then this part should be especially easy for you to navigate. Either way, great things are ahead for you!